Well, I’m here to tell you that it is not the end of the world, and that you will be fine.My freshman year consisted of moving to a new country, being kicked out of my first dorm (roommate drama), breaking up with my boyfriend of a year, and breaking up with a boy who was not my boyfriend but was definitely more that a friend and losing some friends in the process. All of this in a 10 week quarter system.Why I’m telling you all the s**t I’ve been through this past year? Not for pity, but to prove that we can overcome anything. But the big question is how to do it?
Grief. Let yourself be sad. Understand that what you are feeling is normal, and it is okay to be sad. Let yourself cry, watch an insane amount of Sex and the City episodes. Give yourself an amount of time to process the sadness. If you feel that it has been a long time since you were happy, seek for help.
Don’t skip anything. You might feel like skipping a gym session, a dinner with a former classmate or classes so you can cry in bed. Don’t do it. Don’t let whatever is hurting you prevent you from living your life in its fullest
On that note, keep yourself busy. I’m naturally an over-achiever. I’m taking 19 credits plus tons of organizations, social events and my own blog. But I always manage to have free time and that’s when I start feeling blue. Go for a walk, eat lunch outside, learn how to knit, but keep yourself busy.
Exercise. I have said this many times through different posts. Exercise gives you endorphins that will make you feel better than our favorite guys in the world: ben and jerrys.
Write it down: it doesn’t matter why you are sad, write everything down. It will help you rant and let it out. I learned that if you got a bad grade, you are going through a bad breakup or just feeling down, writing things on a piece of paper will make you relief stress.
three things: write down three positive things that are going on in your life. It can go from “i wore a pretty dress today” to “i have an amazing smile.” Write three things every night before sleeping to remind you how amazing you really are.
Surround yourself with positive stuff. Be around people that love you, be around happy people, be outside. Don’t let yourself be around people that will drag you down
Post its, post cards and more. Put encouragement notes all over your place, so you can always have a little inspiration wherever you go. I personally have some post its on my mirror and inspirational post cards in my wall. Being reminded of good things will always help
finally, know that time does heal everything, and that no matter what you will be fine. Britney Spears survived 2007, you can survive your bad path too.
*Contact me if you need advice or someone to rant to*